Relationship Roulette: 18 Critical Questions Before You Dive into the Dating Pool

If you want the best chance of starting a successful relationship, asking some questions about a potential partner up front is important. If you want to get to know someone better and to determine if you are compatible, these 18 questions are highly recommended by online users.

Are You Married?

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Checking if someone is asking to date you if they are married shouldn’t be a thing, but, unfortunately, many married people will flirt with other people. One online user also asks people to think twice about people who say they are married, but that’s OK. The advice was, “If someone ever tells you it’s OK to date because they’re in an open marriage, check with their spouse because it may be news to them.”

Do You Want Kids in the Future?

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If having kids is very important to you, asking this question early on is important to avoid wasting your time with someone who does not share your goals. However, if you are more flexible about having kids, you may want to wait until later in the relationship to ask this question. One online user says, “If one person wants kids and the other wants to stay child-free, then they are incompatible.”

What Temperature Do You Set the Thermostat to Throughout the Year?

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Not all first-date questions must be about serious issues such as getting married and having kids, as many are more concerned about everyday life. While a question about thermostats gained a laugh from many people, others thought it was a great idea, with one person commenting, “That is an excellent question! I bet this could cause arguments if someone likes it hot and someone else likes it cold.”

When Was the Last Time You Changed Your Mind About Something?

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According to one person, asking someone when they last changed their mind about something “opens a window to how they think.” Asking someone about their opinions on a first date can be a great way to get to know them better and to start a conversation. It can also be an excellent way to gauge their values and beliefs. However, it is important to be mindful of the types of questions you ask and to avoid asking anything too controversial or personal.

What Are Your Hobbies?

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While it’s OK to have different hobbies, getting to know what potential partners like to do in their spare time is a good way of getting to know them. Additionally, one person pointed out, “If the hobbies are time-consuming ones generally done with a SO, but you have no interest in them, that could also be an issue. “

Do you Smoke?

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Lifestyle choices can be a dealbreaker for some people, so questions such as “Do you smoke?” or “Do you drink alcohol?” can be crucial. It is best to ask these questions sensitively, as some people may have a vice they are not proud of.

Ask Them About Their Ex’s

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While asking a potential partner about their previous partners may feel intrusive, some people think it is essential. One online user said, “Ask them about their exes. If they think every single one of them is bad…they are likely the real bad one”.

“Are You Going to Be Financially Dependent on Me?”

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Getting straight to the point, one person said they need to know how reliant a partner would be on them. These questions may occur if somebody has been hurt by a partner who exploited them.

What Do You Do to Handle Stress?

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Asking a potential partner how they handle stress is a great way to learn more about their coping mechanisms and overall well-being. It can also give you insights into how they might handle challenges and conflict in a relationship.

How Do You Vote?

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A deal breaker for a lot of people is how someone votes. One online user says, “If I find out that she has different political values than I do, it won’t work out in the long run, so I wouldn’t bother.”

What Is Your Spaghetti Policy?

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One person had food on their mind when they said that how somebody eats their spaghetti is a deal breaker. We can only assume people who cut up their spaghetti before they cook it are a huge turn-off.

Are You a Picky Eater?

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Food appears essential for many people, as another user said that finding out someone is a picky eater will put them off dating them. If people love to go out to dinner or celebrate a long week at the office and a partner is happy to grab a tray of nuggets, they must be compatible.

Toilet Paper Over or Under?

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Sometimes, minor things can send a partner over the edge, and many people think how someone hangs their toilet paper is a deal breaker. One online user said, “Now, this is the question we should ask.”

What Are You Looking For in a Relationship?

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To know if you are on the same page with the person you are about to date, one user said they ask what people are looking for in a relationship. If the person’s answers are far from your life choices, it is not worth the time.

Do You Believe In Astrological Signs or Spirit Animals?

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Asking if someone is spiritual or interested in star signs can give insight into their personality. The answer will be a turn-on for some people and a massive turn-off for others.

Do They Have Any Pets?

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Some people love animals, and others are allergic or don’t like them. One online user said, “You can tell much about someone from how they treat and care for their pets.”

“What Is a Good Question to Ask Before You Start Dating Someone?”

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To get the most out of a potential partner, asking them what they think the question should be is an excellent way to start. This is the advice of one person who thinks “that would illuminate so much more than any other singular question you could ask.”

How Are You?

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One person thought that a simple “How are you? This is sufficient. Making your date feel relaxed is the best way to allow them to feel comfortable to be themselves.

 

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