When we’re younger, we hate the fact that our parents tell us what to do and try to guide us into adolescence and adulthood. However, there are some things that we wish our parents taught us in order for us to have a better start into being an adult. Despite their efforts at helping us understand the world, not every parent knows what they’re doing and this is sometimes because they are still trying to figure everything out themselves. Not every parent has life figured out, even when we think they might.
How to Respect Your Partner
We see and hear everything as a child, even when our parents think we aren’t listening. We know and see. Parents need to respect each other for the child to grow up knowing exactly how they should treat their partner. One person on the forum said she and her sister struggled to maintain a healthy relationship because they didn’t have that model to look up to. Her father was abusive towards their mom, and it was hard to escape the cycle when you witnessed it as a child. Another person wanted a healthy relationship model because their mom constantly berated and belittled their father. This has led them to have a certain tolerance for abuse. Any child who grows up around abuse might think that abuse is love.
How to Stand up for Themselves
One woman, Kiara, said she wished her parents would’ve taught her how to stand up for herself, even when it’s scary. Parents tend to sway away from teaching their children how to cope with confrontation. Because we don’t know what’s best, walking away could cause the person being confronted to go further, and that’s what most parents say to do. Standing up to an aggressive person can make them take a step down. One person on the forum said that conflict is stressful, and they had a panic attack within 30 seconds. It’s an invaluable skill to hold your ground during an attack, heated conversation, or debate.
How to Regulate Emotions
One common problem that many people said they wished they had learned from their parents was how to regulate emotions. Many of us don’t know what to do with our emotions, and it should be taught in childhood so as you get older, you can identify moods and emotions and handle them. One person on the forum suggested that they grew up in an unstable home by saying their parents couldn’t teach what they didn’t know. Another suggestion could be going to therapy and getting the required tools.
Proper Study Habits
It is easy for parents to let studying get lost in the movement of household busyness. One person who got Bs and Cs reflected on their youth and said they wished their parents would help with their homework and that they classed it as a task rather than a chore. It’s essential for parents to regularly check in with their children’s homework and test scores to know exactly how their children are doing at school. Your child’s school experience is vital in their attitude towards learning and succeeding in life.
How to Maintain a Home
Daily household chores and tasks are essential life skills to teach your child so they can move forward with their own lives when they move into adulthood. There is no age too young for a child to start cleaning up after themselves and learning how to use a washing machine, etc. One user said that their parents would concentrate on the housework while they focused more on school work. “This was great,” they said until they had no idea what to do when they hit adulthood.
How to Fix Things
Items break in the household and outside all the time and many users on the forum wish their parents had taught them how to fix these things. One person recounted a lousy childhood experience of being the “flashlight holder” rather than being involved, ending up clueless. Most of the time, if parents involve their children and the child does something wrong, it ends in scolding without teaching demonstration, problem-solving, or letting hands get dirty.
How to Cook
Many of us grew up with lovely homemade meals, but we never watched enough to know how to cook as we got older. Many people said they wished they knew how to cook when moving out into the big wide world, but it was a skill that their parents just never taught them. We all didn’t come from homes where meals were cooked fresh, so there would’ve been very little to learn. However, just because your parents couldn’t teach you how to cook doesn’t mean you should repeat the cycle. One person said, “They still got time, but I wish they taught me how to cook.”
Financial Literacy
There is one lesson that is the most important in childhood, and this is financial literacy. It’s essential to get your children involved in finances so they know what the cost of items is, and also, they will become a bit more appreciative of what they have. Involve them in credit building, how to do taxes, and creating a budget. A few people on the forum also said they wished it was taught in school.
Self-Worth
Self-worth has declined over the years, and it is something that starts at home. One user said they lacked self-worth because their parents always brought them down. Very sad. They implied that they were always a burden and would be devalued often, which has led to a severe lack of self-esteem. Another woman replied to this, stating that they experienced the same and that she was abused in their childhood. This led to therapy sessions where she had to unlearn the toxicity. Kids need love, nurture, and a sense of security and acceptance; parents need to do this.
How to Speak Another Language
Traveling to other countries is far more popular than it used to be, and some people come from multilingual families who regret that their parents didn’t teach them more than one language. It’s easier when you’re a child to become fluent in another language, and these people said that it has made it challenging to communicate with extended family members because of the language barrier. One reason why parents don’t teach their children another language is the worry that it could confuse them or that they might feel too excluded from their peers. However, in the long run, it will benefit children to learn another language in early childhood.
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